Life is full of challenges, setbacks, and unexpected events that might leave you feeling powerless. It’s easy to feel out of control. You feel as if life is just happening to you and there’s no real meaning to it. Although nothing will make a bad situation automatically good, a mindset shift will help you feel better. A change in perspective will also help you leave this bad situation faster.
Your thoughts create your reality. Your thoughts influence your beliefs which in turn affects the actions you take in your life. For example, if you believe you are capable of success then you are more likely to take actions that lead to success. If you don’t believe that you are capable, then you are more likely to give up easily. It’s like a self-fulfilling prophecy. Changing your thoughts and your mindset from “life happens to me” to “life happens for me” will transform your challenges into opportunities. This mindset shift will automatically help you think more positively even in hard situations. Positive thinking will then help you attract more positivity. Remember that you have the power to shape your destiny.
The meaning of “life happens for you, not to you”
This quote hints at the idea that every event that takes place in your life has meaning and purpose. Regardless of whether something is good or bad, it still happened for your betterment. When circumstances, events, and challenges get thrown at you, you can choose to see them as growth opportunities. Life is unpredictable and a lot of it is out of your control. However, every event, challenge, and situation happens to you for a reason. Positive events are just good for you (no explanation needed there). On the other hand, bad situations are not setbacks but ways to improve yourself. That is the meaning of life happening for you. Everything that happens to you is a part of the greater plan that can’t be explained.
Take for example, a bad relationship and a bad breakup. A person could be in a toxic relationship or had a bad breakup with someone they cared about. It’s an awful situation that many people don’t want to be in. However, years later, this person might realize the lessons they’ve learned from this hard time. The lessons they learn in this current bad situation will help them get what they want in the future.
Benefits of this Mindset
Now, you’ve adopted this mindset.
1. Relief
The first feeling that will run through you is relief. A weight is lifted from your shoulders. You are not in this alone and have the entire universe supporting you. Realizing that everything happens exactly at the right moment, removes many doubts in your mind. There’s no such thing as the right person, wrong time. (they were never right)
2. Living in the present
By adopting this mindset, you automatically become an active participant in your life. You take responsibility for your choices and actions. You are able to actively seek opportunities to learn and grow. Instead of trying to escape every challenge, you try to learn from it and get better. This mindset helps you be grateful for every situation in your life, good or bad.
3. Positive outlook
Your thoughts create your reality. Having a positive outlook in life is important to attract more positivity. Living life as if everything is happening for you lets you accept what you can’t control. Viewing bad situations as opportunities changes your perspective and makes life a little easier.
